Start Your Conversation About Why All Families Matter
It starts with a story—your story. It’s your personal connection to why All Families Matter that will help you start conversations with those around you.
Your story can change hearts and minds across our state, and assure that same-sex couples and their families are treated with fairness and dignity, just like any other family.
Reach out to those around you—your coworkers, neighbors, friends, and family—telling them why All Families Matter to you, and why you would like their support. Your story makes a difference in ensuring all families are treated with fairness across New Mexico.
Remember, you don’t need to be an expert. And you don’t need to change anyone’s mind. Your job is to invite someone on a conversational journey. You’re their guide. You don’t need to reach the destination right away. Just hold their hands as you start down the path together.
It’s natural to feel a little awkward at first to share your story. But you’ll find comfort when you’re willing to be open and honest about why you need their full support.
Who to Reach Out To
If you’re lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT), reach out to a straight neighbor or coworker. Just because you’re “out” as either LGBT, or transgender person, or as a straight ally, don’t assume that people in your life know how you feel about dignity, fairness, and respect for all families in New Mexico. They’ll most likely welcome the chance to explore the issue with you and get their questions answered.
If you’re heterosexual and would like to learn more about fairness, reach out to a LGBT relative, coworker, neighbor, or friend. If you don’t know any gay or lesbian people personally, contact us to start the conversation. It’s natural to feel a little awkward at first. Don’t worry about saying the wrong thing. As long as you have an open mind, your interest will be appreciated.
How to Start the Conversation
Starting a conversation about why All Families Matter can happen in numerous ways, including inviting someone over for coffee or tea, and waiting for conversation to touch on personal stories about relationships or life situations, or taking advantage of news coverage about current events.
Tips for LGBT People and Allies to Start the Conversation
• Start with a story that’s personal to you, such as some of your dreams, desires, and passions for everyone to enjoy the same dignities and respect across our state.
• The goal of any good conversation is to listen and understand where the other person is coming from, and share your personal experiences.
• Focus on personal perspectives. Ask question about their views, and share your own, with an emphasis on your personal experiences.
Tips for Allies
Share why you, as an ally, want to see fairness. You may have a personal story about wanting a close friend or a family member who is LGBT to be treated fairly.
“I love my son/daughter. And it’s a joy to us that he/she has found that special person to share his/her life with in a caring relationship. I wish everyone could understand how much excluding them from fairness, dignity and respect hurts our family. “
“Tradition is important in our family. That’s why we’ve invited our son/daughter’s partner to be a part of our family traditions and celebrations.”